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Hey dearies,
How was your weekend? Hope it went well o. I know that many of you attended weddings and ‘owambes’, right? right. Today’s post is just me rambling, I think I made a point though. Kindly make your opinions known in the comment section. Don’t forget to share 😉

Every saturday I watch weddings on the television and see pictures on the internet and dailies. I used to watch them with envy and wonder when it would be my turn. I used to visualize my wedding colors, venue, bridal train, and sometimes, I would add a face to the headless man that was to be my husband. I used to console myself that I was still very young, those days have long passed though.

Recently, I noticed that my friends have started getting married one after the other. Seeing as I do not have a lot of friends, this has become a problem for me. At each of these weddings, I am expected to catch the bouquet so I’d be next in line; I never do though. I usually just stand there and laugh.

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At the home front, my mother has made my marriage a prayer point. My aunties and uncles ask me for my age just to remind me that my mates are married and some have given birth. I always smile at them even though it irks me. I always wonder what their business is. What if I am not ready to get married? What if I don’t even want to get married? Is marriage a prerequisite for a happy life? How many of them are happy with their choices now? These are the questions I want to ask each and everyone of them. It is sad that I cannot.

The purpose of this article is to highlight why women should not be rushed or pressured into getting married. I would itemize a few points to buttress my points.

  1. This is 2015!!! You would think that by this time ‘people eye go don open’ but no, they want to still think like the people of the stone age. No, it is no longer an achievement to get married at age 20 or 22.

  2. Getting married is not the important bit. Getting married to the right person at the right time is what really matters. That is what determines the true happiness of the woman.

  3. Being married is not the highest achievement a woman can get. And no, I am not a feminist or a woman rights activist. I have just seen too many broken or unhappy homes in recent times.

  4. Except she is a lazy woman or a gold digger, every woman wants to have her own money. The truth of the matter is that this is easier to do things when you are single. When you get married, taking care of the home will distract your attention. Depending on the person, some people cannot even achieve anything after they are married.

I have come to the conclusion that no one should be forced, coerced or pressured to get married at any point in their life. Marriage is a very serious and sacred institution that should be entered into only by a woman’s will.
Dear women, do not allow your self to be pressured into getting married. Your happiness is your choice, not that of anyone else.


Love still exists and there is that one person who is cut out for each and everyone.

Let us let love lead the way.

QUOTE: “It seemed to me that the desire to get married- which, I regret to say, I believe is basic and primal in women- is followed almost immediately by an equally basic and primal urge- which is to be single again” – Nora Ephron

Now people, please let me know if I was blabbing. Ladies, when do you think is ideal to get married? Guys, when do you think is ideal for a girl to get married? Most importantly, how do you know you are ready to get married?
Have a splendid week darlings.


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My name is Patrick Jennifer............ Talkative extraordinaire (aspiring OAP), Professional 'carer', Wanna-be writer, and I am sweetness personified.

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  1. Genro May 19, 2015 at 7:10 am -  Reply

    Hmmmm….truly said…no one should be forced or pressured into marriage…..but the ish I keep getting confused over is the word “right man”…the right man you think today can end up been the worst of all, especially when money comes, and the idiot of today can the right man tomorrow…….am talking based on what have seen….vice versa…….back to the topic…African parents are the funniest…the way them go sing the thing into your ears….you go think say na dr dre and don jazzy produce am…….and we can’t disrespect them….looool…

    • shughar June 9, 2015 at 12:38 pm -  Reply

      hehehe @dre and jazzy.
      african parents tho!!! too much wahala. thanks dear, true words.

  2. Arnytah May 19, 2015 at 6:34 am -  Reply

    Get married cos ure sure its d right time and d right person n not cos of pressure cos no one will suffer with u wen wahala comes

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