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Today we are discussing; signs of a wrong relationship! It is possible to know if a relationship will end in a great marriage or not.

A wrong relationship in my view is one which investment of time and love is a total waste eventually!

One of the greatest pain in life is time invested sincerely in a relationship going nowhere! It really hurts, especially when you put in your best.

Memories of such are filled with regrets, pain, shattered dreams & unresolved emotions. I will encourage anyone in this shoes, LET THE PAST GO!

Truth be told even the smartest of all, falls into wrong relationships, because emotions subdue our sense of logical reasoning.

The most important thing about the past is : lessons learnt and not to repeat itself!

Sign No 1, that the relationship heads nowhere : WRONG MOTIVE, when the motive or intent is wrong, everything is wrong!

When your real or main purpose for choosing a spouse is anything else but genuine love, the relationship will fail with time.

If you choose a relationship based on money or fame, after you got the money or fame, you will still feel very empty, & in search for love

The same applies to choosing based on sexuality or pity! With time true love grows deep but money, fame etc loses value!

Putting things in perspective, money, status are key in choosing, but if your main purpose is money not love, you got it all wrong!

Reason 2 of wrong relationships : SECRETIVE; when one or both parties in a relationship are not open, about key areas in their lives! Such relationships usually end up no where, because surprises keep springing up that makes trust totally impossible!

True love doesn’t thrive or grow in secrecy! Openness is vital to a thriving relationship!

It’s amazing, in our generation, the definition of private is changing; phones are kept private with passwords, private parts are shared freely

The third sign ; FEAR ; the emotion that makes you feel scared, frightened or apprehensive especially in a negative way.

Love should be exciting, adventurous, fun filled & not FEARFUL in anyway! Once you become fearful of your spouse or relationship. BACK-OFF

True love is without fear, though filled with mutual respect and consideration for each other

Fourth sign: DOMINEERING; when a partner dominates the relationship, the desire or views of the other, doesn’t count at all

This partner has strategically found a way to always have his/her way, either through intense arguments/emotional engagement.

This behavior is often based on a lack of value, love or consideration for the other partner, or a disregard of their mental contribution. Eventually the subdued partner, feels like a thing in the marriage, not necessarily a valuable part of another, and eventually shuts down!

A word of wisdom: Don’t win all arguments in your relationship and in the process lose your spouse!

Fifth sign of a wrong relationship : WHEN YOU DON’T BELIEVE IN EACH OTHER’S GOALS OR DREAMS!

Amongst so much depression, criticism and failure around us, your spouse should be your GREATEST FAN! Encouraging you to succeed.

The challenge emerges, when your supposed CHEERLEADER, becomes your NO 1,critic!You feel beaten up and alone in your struggle! #adamandeve

Relationship & marriages should be safe haven for those in it, despite the tension in the outside world,we have a safe haven.

It becomes a huge challenge when I fight battle outside in the marketplace, only to get home to fight battles again.

If u don’t believe in his/her dream, no matter what they are, maybe u should not be wasting his/her time! We love people that believe in us

We will continue this next week, I plead with u if these signs do exist in your relationship,have a conversation. Please share this article to help others.

Relationship should be a worthy cause of investment of one’s time, love & emotion! If you don’t believe in his/dream don’t waste your time.

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  1. babaolowo June 18, 2014 at 3:27 pm -  Reply

    Friendship is a relationship too jare… it is even sometimes stronger that the so-called relationship we keep… If he/she is not ur friend.. you are sleeping on a bicycle… and I think it is not until you tell the world about it that makes it strong… Sometimes, it is better when it’s a little secret… Privacy though, not secrecy… *winks* Sometimes letting the world in is like a advert for those vulture that are bent on never letting anything good work.. Cool they know i am with you, better they know nothing about how we are doing it…

    To badt i am not searching… I hope they are searching for me sha

    • shughar June 19, 2014 at 9:13 am -  Reply

      lmao! Better start searching so that the both of you will find each other 😀

  2. Dreamer June 17, 2014 at 9:05 pm -  Reply

    Nice piece,I think Friendship should be on this list,cos eventually love kinda fades away but true friendship keeps a couple going

    • shughar June 18, 2014 at 9:43 am -  Reply

      errrm, the topic is ‘signs of a wrong relationship’ ….. not sure how friendship plays into it though. The first episode about choosing a partner talks about the importance of friendship in a relationship. thanks

  3. fragiletimbz2013 June 16, 2014 at 8:06 pm -  Reply

    Learnt a lot from this. I hope it sets me on the right sail in my search for a life partner.

    • shughar June 17, 2014 at 9:09 am -  Reply

      ami o………… (y)

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