Just as we protect our bodies from illness by ensuring that we do not engage in some habits, we can do same for relationships.
We can protect our marriages from failure by avoiding these very destructive relationship patterns.
If any one of these traits is in play in a relationship, the result can progressively weaken the bond and cause distance.
Knowing what these patterns are, and guarding against them, can be the key to maintaining a strong, healthy relationship:
LACK OF INTIMACY is another habit that destroys relationships/marriages. What is intimacy?
Intimacy is a close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person. Intimacy is being emotionally close to your partner, being able to let your guard down, let him or her know how you really feel.
I view intimacy as in-to-me-see Intimacy is seeing into each other’s life. It’s knowing each other’s strengths and weaknesses.
It’s being aware of each others fears, hopes, and dreams. It’s not just about sex! It also involves emotional bonding.
Emotional intimacy occurs when there is enough trust and communication that it allows you both to share your innermost selves.
Deep emotional intimacy is when we feel wholly accepted, respected, by our mate even when they know our innermost struggles.
Emotional intimacy fosters compassion and support, providing a firm foundation for a marriage to last a lifetime.
Over time a marriage lacking intimacy will become empty, lifeless, and the husband and wife will find distance in their relationship.
So since intimacy is key to the success of relationships, how do one achieve greater level of intimacy?
Be positive about what you have in your relationship. Let your partner know what you value about him/her
Put it into words, don’t assume they already know. Everybody likes to be told that they are appreciated and loved.
Increase the time you spend together as a couple. Intimacy can’t be created without spending time talking.
Create opportunities for intimacy. Make times when you can be alone together in a situation where you can focus on each other.
Deal with conflict swiftly. Don’t resort to silent treatment/snide remarks.Unresolved conflict puts tension on relationships.
After an argument look at the deeper feeling behind the anger, hurt and talk to your partner RESPECTFULLY about this feelings.
Get help. You may find that a marriage counselor is helpful in launching you and your spouse into new emotional territory.
A few private counseling sessions might help you learn some things about yourself and move from where you are to where you want to be.
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